Live In Caravan While Working

Family ruined by blame?
I feel so hurt, and totally devastated :(

Sorry so long.

My brother and I had a rather difficult child hood, as our mother (our only parent) was physically and mentally abusive towards us, with me especially, but that is because i knew my father, and missed him terribly. She hated me for this. My brother, being 5 and half years younger, never knew him.

I would say we carry the scars from this, and although we are a tad messed up emotionally. We have done ok.

I loved my brother, and felt we had been in it together. I ran away when i was 15 (my relationship with my mother was terrible by this time), but always stayed in touch with my brother, perhaps a bit intermittently, as there was no phone in the house, or mobiles / internet back then. But i did my best.

When i turned 16 i was offered a job working for a man who kept horses. Before running away, i had sometimes ridden his horses for him, and he was keen to employ me. I lived in a caravan, illegally at the back of his stables, but i did not care, anything was better than living with my mother.

I worked for this particular employer for about a year, and other than being a bit of an arrogant man, i quite liked him really.

I came back to work for the same employer when i was 19, it was for the winter only. During this time i managed to secure a job for my brother, mowing lawns, digging gardens, etc.. He was almost 14. I was delighted for him, as i knew he was never given pocket money, and mother refused to buy him the latest trainers etc, which seems to be so important to young, teenage boys.

I moved to london after the winter and started to settle there. My brother continued to work for this person for a little while.

Fast forwarding some years, my brother went to uni. Did well, and left to work in Japan - for 5 years. Up until he left for Japan, i had, what felt like, a mutually good caring relationship with my brother.

He returned a different person :(

At first he said he was too busy, and stressed to make/have contact, or meet up, as he started a masters degree straight away upon his return. I found it a little odd, but accepted it. Then 2 years on, I lost my partner (he died) and i needed and wanted to move away. Although i felt my brother had been acting a little odd towards me, i wanted to move to the north to start over with my life, and my babies life, who was due to be born, and to build the bond again with my little brother.

Since moving to be be near him, i have been treated with utter disdain. I have been trying for over 2 years to 'be his friend'. In return i he has treated me like an unwanted dog. I could not understand why he almost breathed hatred when having to speak to me. I asked why, on so many occasions, does he make me feel as though i have done something wrong. He never gave me any answers, and the more I asked the more nasty he would be.

It has reached the point that i can take no longer take his treatment, and i have ceased to make...

A few years ago I met a Chinese girl at uni. When I finished my MA, she went back to China and I started looking for a job. The plan was that I get a job and she applied for a fiance visa to come back to the UK so we could get married. After 12 months, I could only find a cleaning job, part time 2 hours a day. I have been applying for jobs pretty much full time for a year, and it's been a bad year. I guess I'm suffering from depression now, have a lot of sleeping problems, with all the struggling to find work and the rejections and battered hopes. Now she is getting cold feet. She thinks I'm a failure, I suppose I suspect she's right, but I've tried my best. I didn't just fill in forms, I walked round town and talked to employers and handed out hundreds of copies of my CV, but I live in a small town, and don't have any money to move.

Well, what can I do? We are still "together", but this is straining things. We are very close, and talk on skype, and she encourages me, but basically this last 12 months have been like hell, and I don't blame her for losing patience.

I realise this is probably something being repeated all over the country with recent economic problems, houses being repossessed, families breaking up, people going crazy with stress and worry. But what can I do? Keep trying? What's the frigging point? I have an MA, 2:1 with merit, great references from previous employers (not that anyone's ever bothered to call them) but there just aren't any frigging jobs. I went for a job in a chocolate shop, 4 hours a week, and the manager said she'd had over 200 applications. I can work, I'm desperate to work, I'm capable of working, but it seems like there are 2.5 million places reserved for people like me now, people who are condemned to a life outside society, stuck in no man's land and condemned to a frigging sh@t life.

Oh, and just in case any rabidly right wing tory trolls are reading, the kind that always talk about the feckless unemployed parasites, I didn't claim benefits the whole year, because I was worried that it would count against us when she finally was able to apply for a fiance visa (I have to show I'm capable of supporting myself and her while she is here.)

How did I survive for a year without benefits. Good frigging question. I ate sh@t, reduced-price out-of-date food every night and then lived on the £60 a week from my cleaning job for the last 4 months while sleeping in a caravan in the woods.

Well, nothing's changed, I'm still here, winter is coming, and the same frigging sh@t life carries on.

Why is it in this country 1% are happy to own 90% of the wealth and let the rest of us rot. I mean, if that was me, I'd be embarrassed. I suppose they think they are something special and people like me (cleaners! phah!) are worthless scum. What a frigging life. Imagine you're in a group washed up on a desert island and one guy says, "OK, I'm having 90% of the coconuts. You guys can fight over the remaining 10%" WTF? Who makes...

My 18 year old son does not work ,(about three months casual in the last two years) or look for work). He can't even be bothered to sign on. He does next to nothing around the house except eat, sleep until at least 1p.m every day and play on his X box until 2 am every night. I have inherited a small house and have the chance to move and live rent or mortgage free but there will not be enough room for him to move with us. He refuses to consider living in a large caravan I have offered to provide for him at the side of the house and will not take seriously the thought of finding a flat of his own. I have offered to pay the bond and the first six months rent. He just doesn't want to know. I'm left with the option of selling the inherited property so I can continue to pay rent on the home we are all in now so he can sit on his backside while I go out to work. I don't want to see him homeless but I don't have much time to get this sorted.
Told him if he doesn't work then its he that will have no money BUT he cannot wait for the fairies to clean up after him like they have done for 18 years. I realise at 18 it would be difficult to earn enough to live independently. The house I need to move into is only two bedroom (we have a 7 year old too). He inhereted 1500, bought a convertable, no licence, insurance L plates etc. Wrote it off within 24 hours! I guess that says it all. Thanks for the answers.

Okay, so when you are 21, you meet your perfect guy.
Since you both love music, he loves stage productions and you love making and selling clothes, you decide that you're both gonna work together at festivals that tour the country. You both love your life, and 2 years later, at the age of 24, you fall pregnant with your first child. your child is born is born 3 weeks early and you discover it's a girl. You decide you'd love to names her after your current favourite music artists, and your boyfriend agrees. What's her name?? she has two middle names.
You take your daughter with you across the country, touring around with all the festivals. She's a very happy little girl and makes loads of friends who are also at all the festivals. During the winter months you used to always stay in your caravan, but now your girl is getting a little older, you decide to buy somewhere where you can live when you're not at festivals. You find the perfect, idealic, 3 bedroomd cottage. When your little girl is 2 years old, you decide it's time to have another little one. 9 months later you give birth to a little boy. His first name is something to do with nature. (eg; Coal/Cole, Fyre/Fire, Egypt, River, Orion/Oreon, etc. etc.) his middle name is after someone in your favourite band of all time. Because you have your son you decide you should stay home with the children, instead of touring the country. However, this will mean that you are loosing much money as you won't be able to sell the clothes you make, so you decide to set up an online shop, which goes very well. When your son is not even 4 months yet, you discover you're pregnant again! Two months later your boyfriend comes home and you both celebrate the news :) When your child is born you are very happy and excited to discover it's a baby girl. You decide her first name should mean peace (eg; Pax, Shanti, Vrede etc. etc.) and her middle name should be your first name. You are all very happy and a year later, while on tour with your family at all the festivals, you fall pregnant again! 9 month later your son is born, and you decide he should have 3 names; his first name has the letter 'Z' somewhere in it, his middle name is your boyfriends name and his 3rd name is of one of your favourite music artists. Your oldest daughter is now 6 years old, and you decide you are going to send her to a Steiner School, which is an alternative school. She loves it there and is doing very well, and when she is 7 years old, you discover you're pregnant again. You and your boyfriend decide that you won't be working at the festivals anymore, as it wouldn't work with the children, so you decide to cary on with the online shop and then only go to the festival as someone who is there for the music etc, not as someone working, which will work a lot better with the kids. So, during the summer months you go to the festivals with your children, and one night, while your boyfriend is off work and you're both sitting outside playing...

Things go right for people that do bad things! 6 years ago my then husband had an affair, when I found out he begged for another chance and even went out and got a tattoo with my name on!! So I gave him another chance as believed he loved me and our 2 kids and wanted to be with us, after all I had given everything to be with him and stuck by him while he put us in £100k of debt on top of our mortgage!!!!!

Anyway 2 weeks later I found out he had just continued with this woman anyway so ended our marriage, he is now married to her and I am married to someone I met 6 months after my marriage ended and we have a daughter and that's all good, he works hard but his wage is small and we barley make ends meet. My son from my first marriage is ill and it is taking years on the NHS to try and diagnose his problem.

Anyway after he left we agreed the house would come to me and the kids and the debts would be paid off by him and this all went down in the divorce. But after the divorce he never paid and I was taken to court (as apparently divorce agreements don't count with the people you owe money to!) by some of the people money was owed to and charges were put on the house.

My ex wasn't taken to court even though I gave them his details he just slipped through the net somehow!!!! He now has started his own business (something I encouraged him to do for years as his employer never appreciated him) he is doing very well and takes 4 or 5 holidays a year (he doesn't invite our 2 kids to join him), he has a share of her house, new car and work van every couple of years and things are going very well for him, we are trying to work out how we are going to afford 10 days in a caravan in October especially as our fridge just packed up and there a problem with the car! But I hope we can do it as its the kids only holiday.

He did start to make some payments to some of the people we owe money to through an IVA, and as he can hide his income being self employed he is making tiny payments. One of the banks wrote to us asking for a new financial statement to assess his payments within 7 days. Everyday for those 7 days I contacted him asking him if he had done it and I was assured he had. Now I have a letter from them saying he has failed to supply the information and unless full payment (£22k) is made within 7 days they will take legal action. So after 6 years apart looks like I will yet again be off to court and forced to pay more money I don't have. My ex is ignoring my texts and calls.

He didn't bother to send them the info as he was too busy getting ready for yet another holiday. Also we had booked a private appointment for our son, which my ex had suggested and offered to pay for, to finally try and get to the bottom of whats wrong and he cancelled it last minute as he had come back from the holiday and couldn't afford it!!!

I can't get a job partly because of my sons problem means he off school or needs picking up early a lot, also my current hubby works...

ok its quite a long story...

my brother and his girlfriend of 6years had a baby girl in december. my brother works away, often for 3months at a time, hes been away about 5weeks now and due back in 7weeks.
they live about 30miles from us near the beach, they also own a caravan about 1miles from there which they dont really use anymore with them having the new baby.
my brothers girlfriend told my mum anytime she needed a break she could lend their caravan, my mum thought this was great since she only see's her grandaughter every 3-4weeks with them living far away.
last weekend would have been my dads birthday who passed away 3years go today, my mum always gets upset and depressed around that time so deiceded she would lend the caravan then, so off she went with her dog.

while she was up there my brothers girlfriend went to see her who took the baby and her dog, my mums dog started to jump at her dog, so she said you cant jump at him in here this is his home not yours. my mum was abit upset and said will you should'nt have brought him in when you knew my dog was here. so my brothers girlfriends mum took my brothers girlfriends dog for a walk.
my mum and my brothers girlfriend were left talking, she started to be really snappy with my mum, saying you should have the dog on a leash or you should have put her outside when we were cuming, my mum said i thought it was just you and the baby so i didnt bother.

the next day my brothers girlfriend text my mum saying bring the key back tonight, my mum text back and said im staying here another two days yet, my brothers girlfriend text back and said oh ok i thought you were leaving tonight....

my mum took the bed sheets home she had slept into wash as she didnt want to leave them for my brothers girlfriend to wash, yesterday my mum got a text off my brothers girlfriend asking where the sheets were, she replied and said i washed them for you, she then got a text saying well you should have just left them here, i like to know exactly where things are...

my mums scared to argue with her incase she stops her seeing her grandaughter, we cant get intouch with my brother while hes away as his phone doesnt work where he is and he cant check his e-mails.
what could possibly be wrong with his girlfriend? and why is she taking it out on my mum??
tina k, this is a caravan
http://www.theholidaywebsite.org.uk/UK/images/caravan.jpg

its just like a very small flat, but only a holiday home

Ok so sit down, this is a long one, I get it if you don't want to read and think I'm sad and should realise that there are more pressing issues in life/the world and that I should just grow some balls and talk straight to my dad.

So here goes. Me and my dad have quite a typical father son relationship. Pretty bad at communicating, and showing emotions unless they are of humour, cars or "have a good week?" small talk basically.

I have always been scared of him and take his opinions seriously obviously because he's my dad and role model. He has pretty set beliefs about things like other cultures living in the UK/Europe that I won't delve into. And while I agree with him on some matters, I refuse to tar entire religions/races and cultures with the same brush.

I find it very hard to talk to my dad about my life, and what I get up to. I should mention that my parents split up when I was about 2 or 3 years old so I have never properly bonded with my dad because I saw him a maximum of twice a week and then the occasional week's holiday abroad.

Now I am 18 nearly 19 I am starting to realise that I am my own self and that my life is in my hands and no one else's. I realise that I have the power to override any decisions my parents make and ignore all their advice which of course I don't, because I'm not an idiot. However I know that I can if I wish, and that power in its self as an adult is nice to have. It has taken me a long time to realise that, and it's started me thinking about all the opportunities I have wimped out on, and how unbelievably low my self esteem/confidence is. I would like to blame it all on my dad, but that's unfair. My dad is great, he's there when I need him and all that but as harsh as it sounds he has set the bar pretty low in terms of achievements and aspirations. He has worked for family all his life. He started out working for my nan in her caravan sales yard fixing the caravans, then his brother in law and sister took over the business and at the time he was actually offered the business by my nan which he refused because he is so scared of responsibility. So he worked for his brother in law which he hated and endured for 20+ years. They did pay him pretty poorly but he never spoke up about a raise. Then he decided a few years ago to quit and work for my grandad who was starting to build a house in the countryside at the time. He is still doing that now and is registered as self employed. Another opportunity that he passed up on was property developing and renting. The house that he lives in today was bought for him by my grandad who had the intention of my dad selling it on or renting it out and then buying another house and becoming a landlord like my grandad (who is loaded by the way). But he took the easy way out as usual.

He is lazy as hell too and goes on about how hard his life is and how he has to put up with his dad and building all day which he groans on about whenever I see him when I couldn't give a shit...

Title: Ace of Clubs



Meet Mark Vice or "MV" as he is known by chancers and what friends he has.

The story line

the main character mark vice is a young guy who works in a petrol stop in texas, one day when working at the stop a biker gang fills up and doesn't pay and decides to arm robbery the place
2 store clerks and his manager get shot innocently while co-operating mark vice is the only who tries to attack one of the men by attempting to hit one of them around the back of the head with a bat
he knocks him out and the other gang member puts a gun to his head, gang leader roy flint, laughs and tells his fellow member to put the gun down telling mark vice he has got balls
he gives him his contact details and hands him a cut of the money they stole from the shop, claiming its our little secret.

mark vice 2 weeks later is found by the fbi and questioned about the shooting and is charged for the assisted robbery of the gang and 2 degery murder, mark vice gets bail and escapes joining the bike
gang seing it as his only option fearing a life in prison.

he leaves his caraven home in the middle of no were and gets his own aparment in las vegas living the high life, Roy flint is then known to be not just a bike gang but a syndicate leader
owning a casino, and a strip joint.

After a couple of easy dirty jobs for flint, mark vice starts impressing flint and is given more risky high pay jobs like hits on people mark vice hates doing the work but is scared about getting hit himself if he
doesnt do the work. the high life doesnt seem so apealing as he remenises about his childhood with his sister who ran away from home and about his ma who died in a hit and run, he just wants to be back to his
caravan and at his job at the petrol stop.

roy flint gives him a job that see's him refuse not his face but when he thinks about it while sitting in a corvette, its a hit on a maria vice his sister instead he ignores the contract and follows
the adress but it ends up being an abonded squat, he thinks about lying to flint about the hit but he decides he doesnt want nothing to do with it, he takes his bag of money and his new car and
drives as far away as he could.

he ends up in detroit, were he finds a new caravan and a job at an office sorting out the mail. one weekend he goes to a local strip joint and enjoy his night with the ladies after drinks, making new friends
and a chill out, he ends up taking a girl home she later becomes his wife and after 5 years together they have a 3 year old son together, one day at work he gets a mail adressed to him
saying we found you " RL" you owe us!

He runs back home to warn his family saying we need to leave but he is too late his wife is laying on the floor un-consious and his daughter being lead at knife point into a boot of a car!
they drive off mark vice tends to his wife but she is dead, mark then travells back to texas to find RL and get his son back and get revenge, he spends his time fighting off his thugs
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